Disclosure Before Marriage
The prohibition of
exploitation in Jewish law (Lev. 25:17) includes a prohibition of concealing any significant
relevant facts before entering into a business or marital relationship.
facts from an intended partner before marriage is not only an offense against
the law of exploitation, but also creates a doubt regarding the validity of the
marriage. The author of Sefer Chasidim, therefore, wrote 700
If a person’s children
or relatives wish to marry, he should not conceal any defect, such as an
illness which would have dissuaded the parents from marrying them had they
known of it; he should not conceal it, but reveal the facts, lest they claim
that the marriage was a “mistaken marriage.” It is better to separate them
(i.e. disclose that which may prevent the marriage) than that they should live
together in conflict.
The Duty to Protect vs. Tale-bearing
As a general rule the
Torah forbids relating anything derogatory about another person. However, where
a person’s life is in danger or he is in danger of suffering financial loss as
a result of another person’s activity, one is allowed and even obliged to warn
him of the danger caused by the other person (Pitchey Teshuvah, Orach Chayyim, 156). In
such cases not only does the ban on tale-bearing not apply, but there is a positive duty to
rescue his life or his property.
One who fails to rescue
another’s life is guilty of infringing the law “You are not to stand by the
blood of your fellow (Lev. 19:16; Maimonides, Laws of Murder 1:14).” One who fails to rescue
another’s money is guilty of infringing the law “You are not able to ignore
(lit. hide yourself; Deut. 22:3).”
Consequently, anyone who
knows that someone is suffering from an illness that can affect an intended
spouse is obliged to inform the intended partner if the sufferer is not
prepared to disclose the information to the intended. This law also applies to
According to the Chafetz
Chayyim disclosure has three conditions:
certainty that a real illness is involved.
information must be given objectively and without exaggeration.
3. There must
be no intention of injuring the party who is ill, but solely an intention of
preventing harm to the other side.
Rabbi S. Z. Auerbach
added that the seriousness of the illness must also be taken into account:
there is a medical problem that does not pose any real danger, the fact may be revealed to the other
side to enable them to make a fair judgment, but there is no obligation to disclose the fact.
there is a serious illness and a reasonably good chance that the marriage will
break up once the facts are discovered, then the physician is actually obliged to disclose the facts to the other side
to prevent serious future damage.
If one partner to an
intended marriage is a carrier of AIDS and does not intend to disclose this,
there is an obligation to reveal the fact to the healthy partner.
when a couple are already married and one partner is infected with AIDS and
does not wish to reveal this to the other, there is an obligation to inform the
partner in order to save his or her life. There is in this no prohibition of
tale-bearing, and one who withholds the
information is infringing the law not to stand by another's blood.
II. Marriage and Divorce
following Concealment of AIDS
two types of defect or illness:
1. A very serious
illness or defect, which a partner normally cannot tolerate.
2. A moderate defect
that can be tolerated.
In the first case, where
one partner concealed a serious defect or illness from the other before
marriage, the marriage is defined as a “mistaken marriage,” which is similar to
a “mistaken bargain” and is declared null and void ab initio. The woman is free to
In the second case,
where there is a defect that might be tolerated, the status
is that of a marriage of doubtful validity since it is not absolutely certain
that it is considered a ”mistaken marriage.”
Sources: Shulchan Aruch Even Ha'ezer 39:5; Levush ibid; Bet Shemuel chapter 15 ibid.; Shulchan Aruch Even Ha'ezer 154:3;
AIDS is a very serious illness. In
general, a person would not wish to marry one who carries the disease.
Consequently, if the fact is concealed before the wedding, the marriage is
null and void. In practice one should not rely on one's own judgment, but turn
to an authorized Rabbinical Court or consult a qualified Rabbi.
Compulsory Divorce due
If one partner contracts
AIDS after marriage and the other in consequence wants a divorce, the court may
force the granting of a divorce. Shulchan Aruch
Ha’ezer 154:1 states that if a husband is afflicted with even a disfiguring
disease he may be forced to divorce his wife and pay the ketubbah.
Maintaining the Marriage
without Protection against AIDS
There are cases where
despite the fact that one of the partners is a carrier of AIDS, both partners
wish to maintain the marriage without using a condom to give themselves an
opportunity of producing healthy children through which they can be remembered.
If the carrier is considered as a potential killer of the healthy partner,
such attempted killing cannot be permitted even with the other's consent.
If however the chances
of infection are low and the healthy partner wishes to continue the marriage
despite the risk, such a risk may be taken in order to bring offspring into the
world just as a person is allowed to risk his life in certain other situations.
It is therefore
difficult to forbid the couple to continue their marriage despite the danger
Danger to an Infant Born to a Mother with
In the past a 50% chance
was reported of a child being infected by AIDS from a mother who carried the
disease. In recent years this statistic has fallen to between 20% and 30%.
From the remarks of
in similar cases (such as Iggerot Moshe, Even Ha'ezer 4:73), it
appears that parents may not be forbidden to try to bring a healthy child into
the world despite the high risk of an infected child being born.
In practice, an expert
rabbi should be consulted, who should clarify the situation with a medical
expert before giving the family his opinion.
A Spouse with AIDS
Protection against AIDS
If both sides agree to
continue the marriage despite the fact that one of the partners has AIDS,
physicians recommend the use of a condom to prevent infection of the partner.
This raises a very serious halachic problem since the use of a condom is in
general connected with the prohibition of wasting sperm (Shulchan Aruch, Even Ha’ezer 23:3).
Here we are admittedly
dealing with a special case involving danger to life and a reasonable chance of
the marriage breaking up if a condom cannot be used.
There is disagreement
between the authorities regarding the use of a condom in special cases. Rabbi
Chayyim Ozer (Responsa Achiezer 3:24)
and Rabbi Moshe Feinstein (Iggerot Moshe, Even Ha'ezer 1:63) permitted the use of a
condom in special cases.
On the other hand, the
author of Shevet
Ha’ezer 2) Maharsham (Part 3, indices
section, page 317a), Rabbi S. Z. Auerbach and Rabbi S. Eliashiv (Nishmat Avraham 4, Even Ha'ezer p.182)
In view of the
seriousness of the problem, a rabbi who is an expert in such matters should be
consulted before taking any action.
III. Compulsory AIDS Testing for Medical Staff
According to the halacha
Choshen Mishpat 427:8-9) any obstacle that involves danger to life must be
removed. This is based on a positive command in the Torah: “Be careful to
guard your life (Deuteronomy
If a particular physician is suspected of being a carrier of AIDS he is under
an obligation to undergo tests. If
the suspicion is found to be valid, the doctor must cease all direct work with